Happy & Healthy U: The Monthly Message

What Happens To You Does Not Define You Healthy Ways to Deal With Negative Circumstances and Events You are not your circumstance It is important to recognize that negative situations and circumstances are something we may experience.  We are in a negative situation; not of it. Externalize negative situations, instead of internalizing a negative self-assessment         (punishing yourself; excessive guilt or shame; feeling unworthy; becoming depressed) Recognize how you survived and may have even overcome a past negative situation. Value your strengths and qualities that have enabled you to get through  Give yourself credit for having healed and gotten to a better place   Focus on ways to cope, get through and overcome a current negative situation Adopt a problem solving attitude and seek possible solutions and resources Recognize when a situation is temporary, so that you realize you will not get stuck Aim for...

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY: REDEFINED Let's broaden the Valentine's Day concept to loving ourselves and others, no matter the nature of our relationships. Also, let's recognize it as a way to celebrate loving ourselves and others all year long. It is essential to remember that giving and receiving healthy love starts with loving ourselves.  Here are some healthy-self love guidelines. Healthy Self-Love Self-Awareness Knowing oneself Positive Self-Worth / Priority Valuing oneself and needs Self-Respect /Integrity Having consistent standards and Healthy boundaries Self-Acceptance /Authenticity Embracing and being oneself Feeling Capable Recognizing talents & skills Feeling Accomplished Sense of competence Feeling Secure Trusting oneself Feeling Empowered Being in control of self and decisions Being Responsible for Self Good self-care