Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Getting Through Difficult Situations

Managing Transition and Unwanted Change; 
Maintaining Your Power and Prerogative

Sometimes, we are presented with unwanted events and circumstances that we did not create.  A good example of this is a major workplace transition, such as a change in management, workplace restructuring and downsizing or job loss. An example in another arena of life may consist of an illness or diagnosis of a chronic disorder.  This is a general set of guidelines to help us find ways to adjust, cope and function well in the face of such challenging changes.

Recognize that you are in the situation; not of it:
Do not internalize the negative change or allow it to define you.  Just because you are experiencing this challenge does not mean that you are deficient or defective. Maintain your sense of value and see that you deserve to get through the difficulty.

Acknowledge the impact of the situation and validate your feelings:
It’s okay and natural to register negative emotions in reaction to a painful or challenging event or situation.  Allow yourself to experience your feelings, instead of surrendering to them (i.e. feeling overwhelmed). Work through your negative emotions, to prevent them from leading you to act against your own best interest. 

Decide and aim toward experiencing a healthier, more satisfying emotional state:
For instance, instead of feeling stressed, you wish to feel calm and have peace of mind.

Practice self-compassion and treat yourself well:
Aim to feel emotions that resonate with you being and feeling your best.  Allow yourself to experience positive emotions; to accept yourself, even with imperfections; and to have faith in yourself, based upon past triumphs in difficult situations.

Adopt a problem solving mode:
Refocus from the pain of the situation to ways to resolve or improve it. Capture your ability within the situation to make any changes, which may assist you in feeling empowered. Identify any external resources that may improve or assist you with the difficult situation,



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