Happy and Healthy U: The Relationship Repair Series
The Principles and Process of Healthy Forgiveness The Principles: To "Forgive and Forget" is not healthy. Instead, aim to "Forgive and Remember". It is important to recognize the related circumstances and reasons why the hurtful event happened. Healthy Forgiveness is a process, not an event. It is not some instantaneous feeling that immediately occurs following a hurtful event Forgiveness benefits the person wronged, far more than the person being forgiven. It enables the person wronged to rid themselves of the burden of bitterness, resentment and desire for retaliation. This prevents the erosion of personal well being. Forgiveness of another can occur without the offending party being alive or present. It is a process that starts within the person wronged, then (if possible) offered to the offender. The Process: Acknowledge the Emotional Impact of The Perpetrator's Act Validate the underlying painful feelings that the hurtful or off