We are much more likely to attract, select and sustain healthy loving relationships with others, when we love and value ourselves in a healthy way. Whatever attitude and perception we have of ourselves, we carry with us and project to others. Therefore, one's self-image, one's sense of adequacy, self-worth are critical to the way we treat ourselves and allow others to treat us. Here are some important guidelines and elements to loving ourselves well.
- Being Authentic: Being who we really are, without pretending or faking a false sense of self.
- Embracing Self-Acceptance: Loving our total selves, including our strengths and imperfections.
- Taking Responsibility for Our Actions: Acknowledging our shortcomings and making positive changes.
- Forgiving Ourselves for Past Mistakes: Understanding, learning, making amends and moving on.
- Nurturing Our Positive Qualities: Engaging in activities that showcase and develop our strengths.
- Celebrating Our Accomplishments: Giving ourselves credit and feeling good about achievements.
- Using Ourselves as Our Own Measuring Stick: Developing and honoring our positive standards.
- Expanding Ourselves and Growing: Taking reasonable and positive risks toward new tasks and experiences.