Do's and Don'ts of Self-Confidence: How to Feel More Confident, Capable and Worthwhile

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Feeling good about oneself is essential to being happy and successful in life. Below, in the "Do" column are strategies to achieve increased self-confidence, self-worth and  sense of capability.  In contrast, in the "Do Not" column are attitudes and practices that rob us of these positive and healthy feelings.


Do                                                                                                                   Do Not 

 
Compare Yourself Only With Yourself                                           Compare Yourself to Others
  • Challenge Yourself to Accomplish New Goals
  • Measure Your Progress Toward Your Goal
        
Give Yourself Credit for Your Achievements                                 Focus on Your Failures  
  • Feel Good About Your Accomplishments
  • Remind Yourself About Past Achievements

Recognize Your Talents, Skills and Abilities                                  Focus on What You Lack
  • See How They are Reflected in Your Performance
  • Value and Appreciate Your Positive Qualities 

Believe in and Trust Yourself                                                           Doubt Yourself
  • Remind Yourself of Experiences of Triumph                                   
  • Recognize How You Overcame Fear
  • See How You Worked Through Pain and Tragedies
  • Note Ways You Conquered Failure
  • Identify Times You Were Resilient and Persevered
  
Exercise a Positive and Optimistic Attitude                                   Practice Negative Thinking     
  • See the Possibilities
  • Focus on Your Abundance (vs. what you lack)
  • Exercise Faith, Hope and Determination
  • Practice an Attitude of Gratitude

Respect and Exercise Your Personal Power                                   Assign Your Power to 
                                                                                                             Others
  • See Yourself as In, not Of a Circumstance
  • Respect and Exercise Healthy Boundaries

Love Yourself                                                                                     Put Yourself Down
  • Treat Yourself Well
  • Accept Yourself With Your Assets and Flaws
  • Practice Healthy Self-Care
  • Engage in Things That Bring Joy and Fun



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