Setting Healthy Boundaries: “No” is Not a Nasty Word by Diane Kern, Ph.D. Setting healthy boundaries with others is about being able to set appropriate limits, turn down unreasonable requests and refuse or reject reasonable expectations that will not work well for us. In many instances, it requires us to be able to say, "No" to others without feeling guilty or as though we are mistreating them. Setting limits is a way to establish and protect our healthy boundaries by setting the parameters within which others may appropriately interact or engage with us. This is also the mechanism by which we determine the lines that distinguish the issues for which we or others are responsible. In other words, by setting healthy boundaries, we reinforce our self-respect, self-esteem and sense of personal power. This also conveys to others the message that we expect to be treated well. Listed below are guidelines for what constitutes healthy vs. unhealthy boundaries. ...
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